Believe
me, I have the same concern you have.
But I'm not sure you are giving the relativist quite enough credit.
If Hitler claimed to reached a wide reflective equilibrium, the
relativist could still challenge some of his scientific claims -- such as the
claims he would make about different races of people. The relativist could still
say that Hitler's claims about the different intelligence or different
moral characters of different races are empirically false.
And in the worst case, in which we admit that rational argument has
come to an end, the relativist is not bound to tolerate or avoid interference
with Hitler's actions. He can still pass judgment on Hitler's acts and
take action.
And let me say one more thing. The possibility of two different
reflective equilibria may simply be a fact that we must accept and
live with. I can't say I like it any more than you do, but that may
not matter. Perhaps it is simply part of the human condition.